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God, this podcast just confirms the two faced, duplicitous nature of Asian parents. And why do we play along and not confront the inequity and indict them?

I disagree that you can find love from within to find your self worth. I think parents have to model that for you as your first teacher. So many of us learn that we had to perform and fulfill tasks and roles without getting any of the resources, support or love. It’s sickening. 🤢🤕

I’m Asian female and only recently did I realize, cognitively and experientially, that I was disowned by my family for marrying the “wrong” person. It’s like a cult growing up in an Asian household. ☠️🥺😡

Miki的中文真的很好，好多詞都知道，文法也用的很標準

Too old? Who tf doesn’t know what an iPod is. 😑 She didn’t even pronounced the name correctly. 💀

Kevin的中文听起来像公园里的大爷哈哈

Why does Kevin always interrupt Miki when she's talking? Let her finish her sentence. Kevin can be so annoying sometimes. He seems like a guy who does the bare minimum, but of course it might not be so, maybe i just got the wrong impression

What if you don’t have kids nor ever get married Nobody to depend on 😂

I found dating a non Asian or non Chinese person make life easier with my Chinese parents My Chinese parents treated my ex Chinese gf like shit But when I got a white gf she was treated a lot better and was quiet most of the time Big factor is the language barrier and they can’t communicate It’s for the best I don’t need more drama and headaches

Lot Chinese kids don’t leave the nest during college It’s very expensive I went to a local college near by so I didn’t have much change Lot kids have stunted social skills and date late in life . By that time it’s too late and gave up later and don’t care to find a partner and don’t get married and means no grandchildren for them As you get older the harder it is to find a gf . Most are married and taken or single moms You find out life is easier being alone and you rather be alone considering the divorce rate in North America and the laws that favour women Why bother. Just have a gf and that’s it

This type of parenting end up with kids that don’t tell you much Be it in the childhood or later as an adult White people it’s open communications fb and discussion and nothing is hidden

chachichocha chichi ho wa ninitodhdgbd s

I don't even have someone to get engaged to but I already got stressed with the engagement ring selection lol

天吶miki英文簡直完美哦！K有些生澀哈哈哈哈，不過上海口音好可愛哈哈哈哈

Stop talking anything with them is the absolution and only one way go. Anything you speaking with highly toxic old generation asian parents will end up heavy agurments and fights, even when they are not your parents at all. Asian parents are almost alway controlling and manipulative. Even most 92% asian families from China and Viet Nam also toxic, and very lecturing.

us asian offsprings were coerced to sacrifice emotionally abusive upbringing for a financially dependant shelter. being half chinese and raised by them, i hate the fact that the generational trauma was mostly inherited by communism and toxic filial piety. its heavily affected my financial stability by weaponizing it, also relationships too, basically a burden to my dna and future. so i choose to never financially return them since they married for money and not love and prioritised money over all life goals. i wont ever support them financially until theyve learned to wisen up.

Could we know what undergrad and medical school Kevin attended?

you had me at leave your house

i dont think ive ever seen my parents do more pda than a hug, but my parents kinda hate each other

15:45 shout out to brandon and his friends for dropping miki off 🥺

Bro what’s an iTouch 😭💀

It’s not that white people don’t parents their kids, it’s that Asian parenting style is psychotic. Sometimes not parenting is also parenting.

No time to think about those things sounds like an excuse to dodge the question haha

FINALLY there are people actually talking about this instead of just memes or comedy skits

I had a roomate in college who is Korean. I still remember the terror and genuine anxiety she felt at the prospect of telling her mom she had a boyfriend who was 27 and still in college. She was 21 years old. She broke down and started crying after a phone call with her mom because she genuinely made her feel like she could not live her own life. I felt so bad for her and just held her as she cried for like 30 minutes. I remember thinking “this is not right”. No kid or adult should feel this afraid of their parents.

为什么要带耳机？

24/05/2024

牛皮！👍

Whenever I am with my parents, I only cry or get mad. With my friends, strangers or colleagues. I don't breakdown. I don't explode. It's hard to deal with my parents. I don't speak, they take it as an offence. I speak they tell me I shouldn't talk back. I tried talking and having a dialogue but it's more harm than good. They are never sorry, they don't feel they're sorry because they provided for me. I am thankful, because if it weren't for them I'd have to work more hours. But at the same time, if I don't have to deal with this emotional trauma and be able to stand up more for myself at my work place. I think I'd be better off. More salary, better respected because I can stand up for myself. That sort of thing.

omgg so relatable I didn't expect!

so useful! Thank you Miki Rai!

i enjoyed your podcasts too much:D, and the funny recap in this one!:D

哈哈哈

Sounds like a Lot of privilege 🙄

你们说中文也很可爱

South East Asia parents will support theirs kid’s at least until 1st job because SEA parents understand there is no freebies from the Government, and they’re too kind to see you end up miserables, homeless etc. SEA parents will cursing themselves if their kid’s end up as junkies. Unlike some western parents okay with whatever happens to their kid’s…

mental health is just an excuses for weaknesses and laziness…learn to accept the fact and take responsibility. If you’re smart then continue on academic path..if you’re not academically smart then after 21 start working. Stay aware from drugs and alcohols. Work hard…that is it. If not successful at least survive and settle somewhere at mid income

Both of you seem to have very strong Taiwanese Mandarin accents!

I am from a specific region in China and all I can say is that, not even the biggest hongbaos are gonna cover those wedding expenses 😭😭

android being a red flag killed me.

Wish saw this earlier than now! For British (British Asian refers to Indian sub continent so I'll have to refer to British Chinese lol)....your experiences mirror exactly what I've experienced in the UK! It's engrained in the tiger parent lol. We're Foreign raised but our parents are the same and I answer the questions before you guys give the answer and it's the same

Her entire personality is “my boyfriend is a doctor” and nothing else.

Hi, I want to ask my doctor friend. How do you feel when you first receive your paycheck ? How does it feel when you know your next paycheck is higher than this month's paycheck ?

I graduated with a 2.36🙂

Erm… Affirmative Action and quotas to meet? Which obviously no longer exists. Not saying he didn’t deserve his spot. Shame it’s no longer there to help others.

I felt like you guys were meant to be friends. Seems like both of you needed each other and being the best out of one another❤ I was in a toxic friend group and my best friend now who is like my sister came into my life and showed me what friendships should be like. No bad feeling. No competition. Just such a happy and comfortable feeling ❤

Is this the chick who posted a video about leaving a cart for amazon drivers, but that video is a paid sponsor by amazon 😂. Girl...... you wouldn't even do that shit if it wasn't sponsored.

slayed

Over here in India its not necessary net positive. This is Ig mainly because the cost of even a mid wedding is like 75 lacks (atleast in middle class) and even if you invite 400 people the total would be 4,80,000 lacks. Sooooo definitely not a net positive thing unless your parents are paying for it and your just taking the envelopes (this is not counting the gold or diamond jewelrys both the parties are gifted but if we do count that it still won't make much of a difference cause major portion comes from the bride and groom's parents which are already paying for the venues and etc)

Good connections and $$$$